Why do we think we are best?
I attended a webinar today by Steven Smith, author of “Egonomics.” In it he was talking about the need for a balance between fierce resolve to accomplish goals and the need for personal humility. We often think the two are mutually exclusive. The problem comes into view when we are over-comparative with each other, according to Mr. Smith.
I was interested to hear the statistics that compare what we think of ourselves vs. what we think of others. Mr. Smith cited a study where 83% of people surveyed said they had confidence in themselves, while only 27% had confidence in others they work with. I found that interesting because in another assessment I have done with several clients the question asks something similar with similar results. It detracts from teamwork if you think you work with people who do not care as much as you or are not as competent as you.
So, why is it that we think we are better than the others we work with? It has been consistent in surveys I have run that people will generally rate themselves higher in competence or commitment than others. What’s funny is that WE are the OTHERS to other people. If we think they aren’t as good as us and they think we aren’t as good as them, how can we expect people to work together collaboratively in confidence? As a leader, I think we need to be on the lookout for such behavior in the workplace and acknowledge contributions of everyone to raise the level of confidence in the teams. If there is a question of competence, that should be addressed.
Humility doesn’t necessarily mean a lack of self-esteem or competence, it does mean a lack of arrogance. If you think about it, the people we most often admire are those who are confident in themselves enough to lift others up. It’s all about making the pie bigger instead of making someone else’s piece smaller.
